A Love Letter to God to My Love

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Dear Heavenly Father . . .

Are You listening? I have a message for my love. Let him know that I am praying for him every single moment he crosses my mind. Let him know that I think about him all the time. That I pray for his strength each time he steps out into the world and that he has the wisdom to overcome the trials he faces daily.

I want my love to know there is a genuine woman who cares deeply for him more than any other woman he has ever been with. This woman promises to adore him for as long as we will have each other.

Are You listening? I want him to know that I know he has been hurt by another before. Maybe more than once in his distant past. I know this because I’ve been hurt, too. Like him, I know what it feels like to entrust your heart to someone who is undeserving. But relay to him that while I’ve been hurt too, it has helped me to keep my heart for him and him alone. No one else can have it.

I know You ask me to be patient. I still can’t wait till the very day we shall cross paths. Oh, what a fateful day that will be! I trust in Your timing. To think of how You formed me with Your hands when You created me, You formed him as well. I’m not speaking of a soul mate. You know I don’t believe in that. This is deeper than that. This is a spiritual connection. You took me from his rib, this I know, and You breathed life into the both of us. Separated to be inseparable, I suppose. Does that make sense? You know what I mean because You know me more than I know myself. There is so much to discover in this earthly life, sure. But the journey will lead him and me back to each other. All the tests, the triumphs, all the past failures of our previous relationships, the mistakes we’ve made . . . all the things we experience that shape us into who we are as individuals have and will help us both to prepare for one another. We were separated at the heavenly birth. One day we will be brought together again.

Heavenly Father, take these words to my love. I cry tears of joy to know that he is doing okay and that You keep him protected. The day will come soon when I will be able to embrace him, hold him in my arms, and kiss him endlessly for what will seem like an eternity. The day will come when he will return home after having confronted a challenging day and my breasts will satisfy him when he lays to rest his head upon them. The words I speak shall be like his favorite comforting thing. (Someday, I will know what thing comforts him.)

Until then, tell him that I love him. I am in love with him. With Your help, I will do my best to prepare well for him–to be his helpmeet. Kiss him for me. Envelop him with a hug disguised as a cool breeze. (You know how much I love Your gentle breezes.)

And lastly, remind him of my words the next time he is tempted to give up on love. May he never lose hope . . . and may he never lose me.

Your Daughter,
His lover,

Kirsten

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To you, the reader, if you’re wondering if I really did tell God this, I did; just as you see it, word for word, directly from my journal. This is not just a post. I hope you’re reading this. I encourage you to earnestly pray for your loved ones. Friends, relatives, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend. Think of prayer as medicine to the spirit and soul, exercise to the body. May you never give up on love if that is what your heart so desires.

*k*

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Letting It Go in 2016

 

That’s just it.

There is no fancy title.

There is no captivating introduction, no eloquent wording.

It is only me, shedding the mysterious layers of who I am as a person, a woman. Well, not all of my layers. I have to keep some of those to myself.

I might as well let you know now that there might be a few grammatical errors throughout. I’m typing this off the dome, which I normally don’t do. Don’t count it against me or deem me a lazy writer. Look at it as pure form, coming straight from the heart. *smiles*

2016. Hmm. Another year to get it right, no? I’ve never been one to set new year’s resolutions, but there are many things I’d like to improve that are within my reach. Like, I wish to work on my inner self. Here’s what I mean.

I am love. I am love. I can’t stress that enough. The longer I live life, the more I realize just how much love is in me; so much love it’s boiling over, that’s how it feels. I am a spirit who is giving. A spirit who loves deeply, passionately, unapologetically. It is how God created me, I can’t help it, it is my nature. But often, I’ve been afraid to express that part of me to others. In a selfish world that says not to do or give nice things to others unless it benefits self or it is deserved, people like me struggle with that. I have no problems with giving, that’s not what I’m talking about but rather listening to others idly talk about the things they may want or need and actually giving it to them without second thought. The fear of rejection or to simply be taken advantage of, or even to become a burden to someone by being too overwhelming in showing this kind of love has hindered me from revealing that side of me. That’s not who I am and to hold back is suffocating me. So, as an act of obedience, I wish to learn how to answer the call to show acts of love and kindness whenever the inkling awakens in me to give to someone who may not necessarily be in need or show some form of love even if it’s just a phone call. No longer can I worry with how it will be receive or perceived by the receiver; that’s not my concern. I know it’s crazy. I’m crazy.

Relationships. I’d like to work on those, too. I wish to deepen my relationships with the people I’ve allowed in my personal space. To surround myself with people who bring positive energy. People who are more optimistic than I am. I need to feed on optimism, really. I want to learn more from the people I’ve chosen to remain friends with. I honestly don’t think most people who call each other friends don’t really know who the person really is. I want to really get to know who they are, what they like, what they don’t like–learn who they are as a person, a human being, a spirit.

Lastly, I wish to strengthen my faith in God and not waver between what I think I heard when He tells me to move in a direction my human reasoning is uncertain about.

Each year I live by a motto. Veritas lux mea is my motto for 2016. If you follow me on any social media outlets, you may have seen it somewhere on my profiles. Veritas lux mea is latin for “Truth is my light” or “The truth enlightens me.” It’s time that I live by my truth. I can’t hide my true self anymore. Learning to let go while allowing discernment to guide me is the only goal I have for the new year. It’s the only way I can have true happiness. Veritas lux mea.

 

Signing off. Here’s a little theme music, lol.

10 Items I’m Wishing for Right Now

Hiiii! Yes, it’s been awhile since I’ve last blogged about nothing. There’s no “but” to follow, I just haven’t posted anything. (Terrible, I know.) With Christmas and a New Year on its way, I thought it would be good to write about what I’m wishing for. I’m not the type to ask for a lot of things. It took me some time to come up with the items that you will see on the list below, because of that very reason. I knew I wanted to make this kind of post for this time of the year. Now that I have drafted one, I thought it would be fun and cute to share with my readers. So here it goes! In no particular order, here are my ten picks of things I am currently wishing for:

1. Axent Wear Cat Ear Headphones

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Are these not the cutest headphones ever made? I’d considered purchasing the everso popular Beats by Dre headphones in one of those rad colors, but after coming across these cute cat-ear headphones I knew I had to have a pair. They totally fit my style and quirky personality (the LED accent lights come in different colors, too). It’s like having three of my favorite things combined: me, music, and cats. Winner, winner, chicken dinner! I don’t know where that last sentence came from, but I do know that whoever thought of the concept for these must’ve had me in mind when they created them. I cannot not have them!


2. Rosetta Stone

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I haven’t been practicing my choice language in months now only because i think it’ll be more conducive and effective for me to have a tutor who primarily speaks the language I’m learning. I have just about every kind of language app there is installed on my Galaxy phone, but until I can find a tutor, I need something in addition to all those apps. I’ve heard good (and bad) things about Rosetta Stone. I have the app for it, too, and while it is helpful, it’s not really cutting it. I think having the entire set will be of better use. Maybe it still won’t be enough, but there’s only one way for me to find out . . .

3. Roundtrip Airline Ticket

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I recently ordered a sweet leopard print 4-piece luggage set and I cannot wait to use it next year for my first real getaway to another part of the world. All I need is the roundtrip plane ticket and I will be set to go. 2015 couldn’t get her soon enough!

4. Apple Computer

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Hmmm, I’m so used to using PC with Windows software that I’m not so sure how I will fair with a MacBook. I know Apple users are scaringly crazily fond of the products. I, for one, have never used any kind of Apple electronic/iPhone/gadget, but I think it’ll behoove me to have an Apple computer in the longrun. We’ll see if I really will get one or if this will only remain as a wish.

5. Zuhair Murad

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You guys and dolls just don’t know how much I love this designer. Seriously, you should see my Pinterest board with pins of Zuhair Murad collections all over it. If it has sequins, crystals, beading, embellishments, anything sparkly, it’s guaranteed to catch my eye. Zuhair Murad’s haute couture gowns have all of that and then plenty of more. What I also like about the dresses is how they seem to balance the designs with the right amount of material for revealing skin. I don’t think I’ve ever looked at a Zuhair Murad design and said I wouldn’t wear it. Never. I can see myself wearing the dress shown above. I’d look good in that, don’t you think? Yeah.

6. Big Bang (comeback) Album

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It’s no secret around here that I’m a fan. I think VIPs would understand me when I say I need for the OT5 to make a real comeback STAT! A real one. No solo work; no touring, singing the same hits that made their fans fall for them. I need new music from all five of them together as a group, not separately. With army enlistment fast approaching for the members, it would be nice to have a new album from the guys to add to my playlist. I bought my first KPop album by BTS (“Dark and Wild”) not long ago since they’re the only other KPop group I listen to consistently. (In a sense I blame Big Bang for this, but I don’t regret it in the least bit.) And while I have grown very fond of BTS, I need for my “first love” to get in the studio, go back to their roots (I pray), and release a good bop. I repeat, 2015 couldn’t get here soon enough.

7. Edgestick

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Living in the south where every day is a struggle with humidity and sweat in the summer heat, a girl is bound to sweat out her edges and “kitchen” (note: the kitchen is known as being the hair at the back of the neck that has a tendency of being untameable, for those of you that don’t know). The Edgestick solves that problem easily. It’s designed to get close enough to the scalp and edges without worrying and wincing about being burned, leaving unsightly scabs around the hairline. Every woman should have one in her curling iron drawer if she wants to maintain her smooth edges. (I know I’m not the only one with a curling iron drawer or closet.) I’m sick of having to borrow my mother’s (which, funny enough, I bought for her). It’s time that I have my own.

8. Scrivener

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I recently found out about Scrivener on Pinterest. It’s a word-processing program for writer’s who need a bit of organization in their writing life. I usually outline my chapters in a notebook, jot down ideas or dialogue in a journal, type out sentences in my notepad app, and scribble character traits on sticky notes. I have several notebooks with words written all over it, front and back, and pieces of paper all over the place. Scrivener cuts down on all of the paper use and allows the writer to arrange and manage his/her thoughts at the click of a mouse button.

I need this software in my life . . . desperately.

9. Air Retro Jordans

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Because I’m not as “hip” like all the other cool cats . . .
I’ve never owned a pair of Jordans in my life. I’m 30+ old now and I’m finding myself wanting a pair, particularly the Air Jordan Retro 3, Air Jordan 11, and the Air Jordan 9 “Birmingham Barons” style. I don’t want all three, no. One pair will do just fine, that’s if I can ever find them. My homeboys tell me that I will have to get them online from stores like eBay or Amazon, and I’m like, “No!” How am I supposed to know if they’re authentic? If I’m gonna drop $400-$500 on a pair of shoes I’m buying off someone I’ve never met before I need to be confident that I’m indeed investing in Air Jordans and not Air Gordans or some crap, you get my drift. I really wish I would’ve bought them when they were sold in the Champs and the Foot Lockers and Finish Lines. I don’t know. I may just continue wishing for these.

10. Brahmin

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While every other woman is asking her husband or boyfriend for the new Michael Kors handbag (or whatever hot item women are into these days, I wouldn’t know), I’m asking for a Brahmin. Well, not really, since I already have one as my Christmas present in a limited edition color. I’ve been in love with Brahmin bags since my days in college and I’ve always wanted one. Now, I have one . . . that I’m not permitted to open till Christmas Day. That’s fine! At least I know I got one now!

What are some items you’re currently wishing for? Making a list is fun to do. Do it for the heck of it even if it seems silly, and see how many things you come up with.

Getting to Know Me: 15 Questions Answered (Part VI)

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Source: ask.fm/elegantlychic

How much would it cost to buy your love?
One one-way ticket. *haha*

What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
Prince in 2004 during his Musicology tour. It was such a surreal experience. I couldn’t believe I was there!

Do you believe that dreams can sometimes predict the future?
I do think some rare individuals do have dreams (visions). I wish a few of mine would come true in my future.

Do you like high heels?
The older I get, no. I’m into menswear for women. I’m a fan of brogues and smoking slippers at the moment.

What’s your favorite drink?
Wine. *laughs*

Who would you most like to be stuck in an elevator with?
I think I should keep the answer to this private.

What do you think of tattoos?
I don’t mind them. I would like a sleeve or a hand tattoo, but I don’t think it will be wise.

Have you visited any art galleries or museums recently?
I haven’t. I want to start, though.

What do you say during awkward silences?
Nothing. I just clear my throat.

What’s the movie that made you cry?
Ah, there are several. I don’t really cry often, if at all. The most recent one I’ve seen (Life of Pi) made me really sad.

Do you believe that each individual on Earth has a soulmate?
Isn’t having one soulmate somewhat limiting?

What’s your favourite chocolate bar?
Almond Snickers.

Contrary to popular belief, I’m…?
Talkative. Get to really know me and you might want me to shut up.

Are you a good liar?
No. I’m a terrible liar. *laughs* I’m too honest to be a liar.

How would you like to celebrate your next birthday?
With someone special.

Getting to Know Me: 15 Questions Answered (Part V)

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Source: ask.fm/elegantlychic

What’s your favorite seafood?
Somewhere between crab and grouper.

Do you want to be famous?
Yes and no. Yes, because I want to be given a platform where I can Give God the honor and glory and tell others how He got me to that point. I also want to show a different side to being a Christian. On the otherhand, I don’t want the stress of my every move being scrutinized. I’d definitely be one of those extremely private “celebrities.”

Hugs or Kisses?
Hugs. They feel really nice.

Have you ever fired a real gun?
Yes. But at an inanimate object, I swear.

What’s your favorite phrase in a foreign language?
건강하세요. (Geonganghaseyo.)

What is the most beautiful language?
Generally, people would say something like French or Portuguese. I’ve fallen in love with the Korean language, however. It’s difficult to learn because some of the words have unusual sounds. But the lilt, the various honorifics, and even the sounds are all beautiful in my humble opinion. I can’t wait for the day when I’m able to speak it fluently. (I’ve a long way to go.)
There are so many other languages that are just as beautiful, of course.

Would you rather be a lonely genius, or a sociable idiot?
Lonely genius. I think I already am. *laughs*

Do you collect anything? If so, what is it?
Odd rings. I haven’t bought any in awhile, but I’m thinking of starting a collection of watches, too.

Whom do you really love?
God.

What is your favorite dog breed?
Siberian huskies. Hopefully, I will have one someday.

What is the best way to learn a foreign language?
The best way? Be around someone who speaks it fluently as their native language. Or you could immerse yourself in the culture and learn that way, too.

What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
Shoot a gun.
(Don’t worry. It was in a controlled setting.)

Are you happy with the amount of information in your head?
Not at all. *laughs* I wish my brain had an off switch!

Do you prefer day or night?
Night. I tend to function better.

What do you think people think of you?
I believe people think I’m socially awkward, which I am. But I often feel that I’m misunderstood. I don’t reveal the real me to everyone–even close friends. If I did, they’d probably think I was a weirdo. When I’m really comfortable I can be funny and ridiculous. I rarely show that side of myself to others outside of family.

Getting to Know Me: 15 Questions Answered (Part IV)

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Source: ask.fm/elegantlychic

The following are questions others have asked me in the past. More to come.

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What’s your favorite method of shopping?
Online. I don’t like going to the shops to look and buy unless I know exactly what I am looking for.

What is your zodiac sign?
Virgo.

Would you leave your home country for the one you love?
After much prayer and if we were for certain getting married, yes.

What’s your favorite dessert?
Doughnuts. I seriously, probably could eat an entire box of Krispy Kreme…by the dozen. Turtle ice cream pie is another favorite.

Do you have phobias?
I have a phobia of spiders and snakes. I hate seeing either one.

How would you like to be remembered?
I want to be remembered as a woman who always kept her word.

What do you like to do on a rainy day?
Sleep. Haha.

Do you believe in aliens?
I’m an alien. So, yes, I do. 🙂

Do you care what other people think of you?
To a certain extent, but only if it is because of my integrity. My integrity is more important to me than a reputation. I have a nonchalant approach most of the time when it comes to people’s opinion about me. In the end, people are going to think what they want to and they have that right. It’s not up to me to try and change their opinion. If they don’t like me, chances are I don’t care enough to even realize it.

What is your idea of a romantic evening?
I like to keep it simple and not so elaborate. The two of us listening to chillout or jazz music while drinking the finest wine–the entire bottle. We wouldn’t need to say one word. Our eyes would do the talking.

If you were to give someone a tour of your hometown, where would you take them first?
I would take them to the Civil Rights Institute. I think anyone who comes to Birmingham should go since the Civil Rights movement began here. Afterwards, I would take them to one of the many stellar restaurants in my city to discuss the impact of the movement over a wonderful meal.

What can’t be bought with money?
Love. Well…some people have to buy it. *laughs*

If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
Racism. It’s such an ugly thing!

What are you obsessed with?
Music. Definitely. It’s almost like a drug for me.

What kind of guy do you NOT like?
I don’t like guys who use harsh, profane language. It doesn’t do anything for the listener or the conversation. I also don’t like guys who need help with approaching me because they come off as being weak. I like confidence. Asking my friends to “put in a word for you” is a surefire way for you to get the boot. Just approach me even if you think I will reject you. I don’t bite. *laughs* Sensitive/spoiled men are a major turn-off, too.

RE: The art of connecting with an introvert

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Per a girlfriend’s request, I was supposed to write about what it’s like to be an introvert. Initially, I shunned the idea and told her I didn’t know what I could possibly say that would be any different from what’s already been said. That was several months ago. And while I had intentions to write about the life of an introvert anyway, I never started on it like I have other entries waiting to be published. That is why I am sharing this post from a fellow blogger instead. I’m not being lazy, I promise. OK, maybe a little. But I enjoyed reading lotusgirl80’s insightful version so much I could not not share it.

Click on the link to read her take on the idiosyncracies introverts have in common:

The art of connecting with an introvert.

I will say that this blogger’s opinion is 110% on point. To further support her basis, I want to exemplify some of the points made in her article.

Number One: Introverts are not the chatty type. Talking for the sake of avoiding the silent barrier that often forms between people we’re attempting to get to know is very tiresome for taciturn introverts like myself. Mental fatigue is the best way I can describe this. We’re internal creatures, so our minds are constantly on all the time. When we meet someone, we may appear to be socially awkward and shy to them. People mistakenly think I’m shy, but I’m really not. It’s just that I’m such an observant person who has to process the information my mind is collecting in a social setting. If that makes me socially awkward, then so be it.

As for being an internal creature, I can know exactly what it is I want to say aloud. Actually saying it aloud is another story. Articulating my thoughts can sometimes be challenging. What I intend to say comes out the wrong way, and so it often results in people being offended or feeling like I’m being too harsh in my judgment. Or what I intend to say sounds strange and unfunny when it was funnier in my head. So failing to articulate my thoughts result in me keeping my thoughts and feelings to myself.

Number Two: I find it amusing how my girlfriends are sweet enough to ask me to spend time with them or go to the big party of the weekend when they know I’m most likely to say no than I am to say yes. I do have my moments when I want to hangout with my girlfriends and have a good time (I rarely invite them out unless I’m absolutely bored and want to go dancing), so I’m not anti-social; not completely anyway. I find that once I’m out somewhere, after so long, I need to leave. I need to leave because when there are too many things happening at once and I’m around too many people it tends to drain my energy. Not physically but mentally. Social settings can be too much of a stimulation to the brain, so an introvert like myself has to remove herself from that setting to recharge the energy she has lost or else she will shut down. I’ve found that two hours is the most I can do. Anything above and it becomes grueling to just try to keep the party going.

Attending big parties or even a gathering with more than four people is a bit too much for me; however, I will admit that sometimes, especially when it comes to gathering with friends, I prefer for it to be with a large group. That way I won’t have to talk as much. The ones who are the gregarious types can have the spotlight and I don’t have to worry myself with trying to entertain a conversation. The downside to gathering with several people at once? The pressure to say something, anything, out of fear of appearing to be the weirdo of the bunch who hasn’t said a word all night. The perils of being an introvert, I tell ya!

Number Three: I can play instruments. I have a creative mind (I write fiction for crying out loud). And I daydream a lot (for an adult). Does that make me a nerd? Not really. I prefer the word eccentric to describe the creative side of me. It sounds cooler.

Number Four: I like receiving tangible gifts as much as the next person. Gifts that are created by the hands and from the heart are the ones I cherish the most, though. I’m a total sucker for handwritten (even typed) letters. Making a meal for me when I don’t expect it warms my heart. I remember when I spent the night over at the same friend’s house, she had made a breakfast sandwich for me. I didn’t expect that from her. I thought I was going to have to go to the kitchen and make my own breakfast or grab some from the McDonald’s on the corner. But she did that for me and I thought it was very sweet of her. (But she’s always doing thoughtful things for me, so that’s nothing new.)

I’m not great at picking out Hallmark cards to give to others, but I love receiving cards. I still have cards from my loved ones and old friends from my high-school days. I will, however, give you a letter. If I need to express my deepest feelings or if I don’t have a tangible gift to give someone for a special occasion, I will give them a letter . . . typed. (My handwriting is too unbearable to read. After all, I am an introvert whose mind is constantly going. My handwriting reflects that.) Oh, and big displays of affection (incessant compliments, too) are a turn-off. That’s why it is not a good idea for the guy to propose to me in a public place or even in front of family members. When in doubt always keep it simple.

Number Five: Whatever you do, don’t you dare ask me too many questions; that’s my job when getting to know you. And please, I beg you, don’t let your questions be too trivial or too vague or too open-ended. When I was somewhat dating seeing this guy, every time I talked to him or whenever we went out, he would always start the conversation with, “Tell me something good,” and he would always want to know what I did for the day. I dreaded having to talk to him because I knew the question was coming. I found myself trying to think of something to say prior to our causeries and outings just so I would be prepared for his repetitive inquisitions. I don’t like talking about myself; never have. Even if it’s something as simple as talking about how my day went, I just don’t enjoy doing it. I’d rather talk about things that reveal the character of a person: memories of their childhood, their favorite foods, the last movie they watched, et cetera. Mundane things don’t interest me. Talking is my time to escape from the ordinary things of life (remember, I daydream a lot). I’ll answer your questions, but please believe I’m secretly hating you for doing such a cruel thing to me.

untitledIntroverts are nothing but aliens compared to our extrovert counterparts. That is to say, we really do alienate ourselves from the world because our inner world is entertaining enough. And speaking of extroverts, I admit I do like being around them the most. Whether I need an extrovert as my mate, I don’t know yet. What’s important is for him to understand that when I say I need a break or for him to not talk to me, I mean just that and I need for him to grant me that request without being offended. The same can be said for friends. Luckily the real friends who have known me for a long time understand that I can’t deal with high-maintenance kind of friendships. A few of them still call me a “stranger” and it’s annoying when they already know that I’m not going to call or text them every week to see how they’re doing. Months go by before they see me or even hear from me most of the time.

So if you know an introvert, try not to make false accusations about their temperament. Understand their characteristics and let them know that you understand them. For understanding their characteristics goes a long way with these types. Demonstrate patience in getting to know your introverted friends or significant other and you will discover how absolutely amazing and exciting they can be as they unveil their many layers. Do this and they will appreciate your commitment to getting to know them in the long-run.

Getting to Know Me: 15 Questions Answered (Part III)

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Source: ask.fm/elegantlychic

The following are questions others have asked me in the past. More to come.

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What inspires you?
Honestly, music does. My music catalogue is ridiculous and so versatile. Whenever I sit down to write, my soul is sensitive to everything. I can watch others and become inspired to take cues from their lives and situations. When I hear music, though, it incites my creativity. It’s weird.

Where is the most fun place you have ever been?
Disney World. *laughs*

What is your ideal type?
A man who is sure of himself emotionally and spiritually. I’m naturally inquisitive, always eager to learn, so he should be able to teach me something new yet be teachable as well. A man who shares my fashion sense would be great. A guy who is very funny goes a long way with me, too. As long as I am attracted to him on some level, he will get far in catching my attention.

Favorite Childhood Morning/Evening TV Show? (i.e. Fraggle Rock,Eureka’s Castle, Double Dare, etc)
Just one? That’s hard. When we (my family) had HBO I loved watching Fraggle Rock. From Nickelodeon, Eureka’s Castle. Guts! was one I dreamed of competing on. For the sake of one answer, I will say Lamb Chop’s Play Along was my favorite show. (But I loved so many! And still do!)

Favorite ninja turtle?
Donatello…I think. Or was it Raphael? Raphael.

How do you learn best: by listening, watching, reading or doing?
A combination of all, really. But I learn quicker by doing. I’m a hands-on person.

What question do you hate to answer?
Why I am single. I think this has to be one of the dumbest questions ever.

What’s the first thing you notice in a person of the opposite gender?
The way he’s dressed. I like a man who is comfortable with fashion since I tend to express myself quite a bit through clothes. He doesn’t need to be a “pretty boy,” but he definitely needs to be dressed well in order to catch my eye.

Favorite restaurant?
I don’t have a favorite restaurant because I love to eat anything and everywhere. I just love food haha.

Do you prefer tea, coffee or cocoa?
Hot [french vanilla] cocoa. I like tea, too. I don’t particularly like to drink a lot of caffeinated drinks.

Have you ever been to Jamaica or any other Caribbean place?
I haven’t! I really, really want to go to Jamaica.

What’s the craziest/wildest thing you’ve done in college? btw….Jamaica is awesome. You should plan a trip and go asap, with friends of course…YOLO!
I was the one who laughed at all of the foolishness around me. I’ve always been pretty level-headed and mature for my age. Some may say it’s because of being a Virgo, I don’t know. But I’ve never been interested in doing wild things for the hell of it; even now. On top of that, I was in a serious relationship at that time, so I wasn’t thinking of wild partying and drunken nights. That’s not to say I didn’t enjoy my time in college because I did. It just wasn’t in a typical way…like in the movies.

If you could only pick one….Reeses or Kit Kat? And yes, there is a right answer =)
I like both, but there’s just something about a Reeses cup.
(Did I pick the right one?)


What is your idea of perfect relaxation?

Me, alone, with a glass of wine and jazz or chillout music is good enough. I often do this when I want to unwind.

If you could hang out with one male celeb and one female celeb, who would it be? sidenote: Reeses…yes!
(YaY!) For a male celeb, I’d love to spend a day with Choi Seunghyun, who is a Korean rapper that goes by the name T.O.P of the group BigBang. Of course, I don’t know him and it will never become a reality, but I think it would be a blast to hang out with him. But really he is my [male] fashion icon. He is in my opinion the best dressed man I’ve ever seen, so I admire him for his fashion sense. For female, I would love to spend a day with Tracee Ellis Ross. She’s a sexy woman for so many reasons. I can imagine trading hair secrets with her and maybe hinting at me wanting her gaudy jewelry, especially her trademark doorknocker earrings and unique necklaces. She seems like she is a fun woman with a bright spirit who gives off positive energy. I could use more of that in my life.

Getting to Know Me: 15 Questions Answered (Part II)

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Source: ask.fm/elegantlychic

The following are questions others have asked me in the past. More to come.

*k*

Elegantdamus…do you think you would survive a real zombiepocalyse? And how would you try to survive?
I’d probably be eaten.

Are you outgoing or shy?
I’m a true example of an introvert. If I had to pick one on this spectrum, then I am shy. Although, I wouldn’t call myself shy since I can at times be outgoing when I really want something. I live in my head moreso so than out of it, so if you meet me and I’m quiet, it’s not because I am shy but because I am absorbing everything and processing it mentally.

What are you sure of?
My faith in The Holy Trinity. I can’t imagine what my life would be like without having all three operating in it. I’d be lost for sure.

What’s your motto?
I have two: “Worry about nothing; pray about everything.” “Nothing to lose, everything to gain.”

What was the last thing you bought?
I’m into odd rings at the moment, so I bought three different rings to add to my collection.

What is your favorite ice cream?
Blue Bell’s buttered pecan.

Are there any places you are afraid to visit?
I wish I could visit Egypt. There’s too much unrest there, though, and I’m uncertain of how I would be treated as a female. I know an Egyptian and he had to go back to Egypt for a family emergency. Even he was unsure if he would return safely.

What is your favorite sporting activity?
Ok. I don’t play sports at all. I do love SEC football (I’m from the south, so it’s kinda mandatory). I’m also a big fan of short track speedskating and super motorbike racing.

Who are your enemies?
Anyone who is against me. But I have found that for each one that is against me, there are two more who are for me.

What Makes You Smile?
It’s difficult to narrow it down to one thing since I love to laugh and can find humor in just about anything. But I will say the laughter of a small child makes me smile. I don’t have any children of my own, but whenever I hear a child laugh it brightens my heart instantly.

Can you cook?
I can, but I don’t like to because I hate the preparation part. I prefer to just eat the food. I only enjoy cooking when those who eat it enjoy my cooking.

What’s your dream job?
I have an ear for music, so I wouldn’t mind becoming a bass player for popular artists of any genre and tour many countries with them. I think that would be a cool job to have. Hey, you never know!

What’s the perfect place for a first date?
New experiences are always good I think. If both can agree on a location, I think a first date should be somewhere neither person has been before. Whether the experience is good or bad, they will have something memorable to talk about. “Remember that time when we went to…” It’s important that they agree on a location instead of one merely suggesting a place because if it is disastrous, then the person who made the suggestion may not get a second date.

Whats your most favorite black comedy?
I’m a fan of blaxploitation films for all of their jive talk and cheesy fight scenes. My favorite black comedy is “Petey Wheatstraw” starring Rudy Ray Moore, bka, “Dolemite.” But his delivery of jive talk in any of his films is hilarious to me. Google “Hush Puppy Dolemite” and watch the 3-min YouTube clip that returns for an example. So many funny elements in that one scene: the “acting,” the music, the fight scene, the occasional boom mic cameo…

What is your idea of perfect relaxation?
Me, alone, with a glass of wine and jazz or chillout music is good enough. I often do this when I want to unwind.

2013: A Year in Review

Christmas has finally come and gone! Which means a new year with new beginnings is coming.

I have been eagerly anticipating for 2014 to get here, you have no idea! Not that 2013 was a terrible year or anything. I’m just over it and ready for a new year filled with new, uncharted, unexplored territory to greet me. A new year presents the chance to hit the refresh button. Looking back on all that has happened in 2013, I realize how everything I experienced has prepared me for what’s to come. I was unaware of all the preparation at the time, but I now see how it all plays a part in the journey I am taking in the upcoming year.

The beginning of the year: January 2013. What a month to start off on the wrong foot! If I recall correctly, it was the very first day, or maybe it was the second day. No matter, the new year was already being unfair to me with its sick and twisted humor; for January was the month when I was forced to quit believing for a relationship to progress to an official status–a “relationship” that somehow only existed in my mind; one that I knew was not in my best interest. I won’t go into details about it, but even though my stubborn heart and I knew it wasn’t right for me and I needed to let go, it wounded me in the end. I remember how I wasn’t feeling well on the very day I discovered heartbreaking news from a man who claimed to have loved me, too. The crushing news was a wakeup call. Granted, it was a delayed call but a wakeup call no less.

I swear this was me. Ugly crying face and all.

I swear this was me. Ugly crying face and all.

On that very same day, when I was ill plus wounded, my sister informed me of her engagement to her boyfriend. She’d sent me a text, so I thought I’d missed the proposal. I assumed my now brother-in-law had proposed to my sister at a family’s gathering on that day. (He had not. They only announced it to everyone at the gathering.) So there I was at home, sick, brokenhearted, and happy all wrapped up in a wool blanket. A cruel joke: that was what the universe was playing on me, and I did not find it the least bit funny.

As the newness faded from the new year, my heart was on the mend, I was well, and I was working. The new year was finally giving me a chance to redefine myself. So what did I do with a newfound confidence? Well, I mustered up the courage to approach a guy for the very first time ever, I adopted a new mantra (“Nothing to lose, everything to gain”), and I started to develop a different attitude about how I was going to live my life in 2013. Springtime rolled around and my confidence was at an all-time high. So high, I let friends of mine convince me to finally start a blog. Not sure where those so-called friends ARE, but Tada!

And then I unexpectedly stopped working. And then I was out of work for a few months. And then I started back working. And then my sister’s wedding happened. And then I lost track of time. And then I started working not one but two jobs. No joke, I felt as if my life was spiraling out of my control everytime I tried to grab ahold of it. And yet, here I am, still blogging and happier than ever.

December is on its way out, which means 2013 is too. (Good riddance!) What happened in the past year is exclusive to 2013 alone, never to be experienced again, thank GOD! It wasn’t all so bad, though. The year did have some highlights even though it started off with negative vibes. I’ve had the chance to work as a stylist to women who love fashion just as much as I do. But being in that position taught me that although it was something I wanted to do, it’s not something I’m too keen on pursuing as a full-time career as I’d thought. Nothing wrong with dressing others. I’m appreciative to my customers when they thank me for all of my help, making their day (and wardrobe) brighter. I just prefer dressing myself (laughs). And there’s nothing wrong with that! But I think the best thing 2013 has done for me was that it allowed me to find my true passion again–a passion currently in the works.

Just as I’ve said goodbye to loved ones who moved away, 2013 brought me new friendships and relationships with people close by to across the seas. Those new friendships and relationships have helped me to broaden my thought-life and I’m grateful for each and every person who has given me sound advice. As for the guy I approached? Yeeeaaah . . . more on that later.

I must say that the BIGGEST opportunity 2013 presented to me in the entire year is still in the developing stages, waiting for its culmination in 2014. What is this opportunity I’m speaking of? Hmmmm, I’m not ready to reveal it just yet, IF I choose to reveal it.

While 2013 started out so horribly (or so I thought), the ending was everything I wanted it to be. And I cannot wait to see what surprises 2014 has gift-wrapped for me.

Having said all of that, I wish everyone who has read down this far a HAPPY BRAND NEW YOU! I think the new year is the perfect time to make your dreams come true. Don’t you?

Eat a bowl of black-eyed peas and have a Happy 2014!!!!
Peace, love and light.

*k*