10 Items I’m Wishing for Right Now

Hiiii! Yes, it’s been awhile since I’ve last blogged about nothing. There’s no “but” to follow, I just haven’t posted anything. (Terrible, I know.) With Christmas and a New Year on its way, I thought it would be good to write about what I’m wishing for. I’m not the type to ask for a lot of things. It took me some time to come up with the items that you will see on the list below, because of that very reason. I knew I wanted to make this kind of post for this time of the year. Now that I have drafted one, I thought it would be fun and cute to share with my readers. So here it goes! In no particular order, here are my ten picks of things I am currently wishing for:

1. Axent Wear Cat Ear Headphones

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Are these not the cutest headphones ever made? I’d considered purchasing the everso popular Beats by Dre headphones in one of those rad colors, but after coming across these cute cat-ear headphones I knew I had to have a pair. They totally fit my style and quirky personality (the LED accent lights come in different colors, too). It’s like having three of my favorite things combined: me, music, and cats. Winner, winner, chicken dinner! I don’t know where that last sentence came from, but I do know that whoever thought of the concept for these must’ve had me in mind when they created them. I cannot not have them!


2. Rosetta Stone

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I haven’t been practicing my choice language in months now only because i think it’ll be more conducive and effective for me to have a tutor who primarily speaks the language I’m learning. I have just about every kind of language app there is installed on my Galaxy phone, but until I can find a tutor, I need something in addition to all those apps. I’ve heard good (and bad) things about Rosetta Stone. I have the app for it, too, and while it is helpful, it’s not really cutting it. I think having the entire set will be of better use. Maybe it still won’t be enough, but there’s only one way for me to find out . . .

3. Roundtrip Airline Ticket

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I recently ordered a sweet leopard print 4-piece luggage set and I cannot wait to use it next year for my first real getaway to another part of the world. All I need is the roundtrip plane ticket and I will be set to go. 2015 couldn’t get her soon enough!

4. Apple Computer

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Hmmm, I’m so used to using PC with Windows software that I’m not so sure how I will fair with a MacBook. I know Apple users are scaringly crazily fond of the products. I, for one, have never used any kind of Apple electronic/iPhone/gadget, but I think it’ll behoove me to have an Apple computer in the longrun. We’ll see if I really will get one or if this will only remain as a wish.

5. Zuhair Murad

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You guys and dolls just don’t know how much I love this designer. Seriously, you should see my Pinterest board with pins of Zuhair Murad collections all over it. If it has sequins, crystals, beading, embellishments, anything sparkly, it’s guaranteed to catch my eye. Zuhair Murad’s haute couture gowns have all of that and then plenty of more. What I also like about the dresses is how they seem to balance the designs with the right amount of material for revealing skin. I don’t think I’ve ever looked at a Zuhair Murad design and said I wouldn’t wear it. Never. I can see myself wearing the dress shown above. I’d look good in that, don’t you think? Yeah.

6. Big Bang (comeback) Album

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It’s no secret around here that I’m a fan. I think VIPs would understand me when I say I need for the OT5 to make a real comeback STAT! A real one. No solo work; no touring, singing the same hits that made their fans fall for them. I need new music from all five of them together as a group, not separately. With army enlistment fast approaching for the members, it would be nice to have a new album from the guys to add to my playlist. I bought my first KPop album by BTS (“Dark and Wild”) not long ago since they’re the only other KPop group I listen to consistently. (In a sense I blame Big Bang for this, but I don’t regret it in the least bit.) And while I have grown very fond of BTS, I need for my “first love” to get in the studio, go back to their roots (I pray), and release a good bop. I repeat, 2015 couldn’t get here soon enough.

7. Edgestick

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Living in the south where every day is a struggle with humidity and sweat in the summer heat, a girl is bound to sweat out her edges and “kitchen” (note: the kitchen is known as being the hair at the back of the neck that has a tendency of being untameable, for those of you that don’t know). The Edgestick solves that problem easily. It’s designed to get close enough to the scalp and edges without worrying and wincing about being burned, leaving unsightly scabs around the hairline. Every woman should have one in her curling iron drawer if she wants to maintain her smooth edges. (I know I’m not the only one with a curling iron drawer or closet.) I’m sick of having to borrow my mother’s (which, funny enough, I bought for her). It’s time that I have my own.

8. Scrivener

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I recently found out about Scrivener on Pinterest. It’s a word-processing program for writer’s who need a bit of organization in their writing life. I usually outline my chapters in a notebook, jot down ideas or dialogue in a journal, type out sentences in my notepad app, and scribble character traits on sticky notes. I have several notebooks with words written all over it, front and back, and pieces of paper all over the place. Scrivener cuts down on all of the paper use and allows the writer to arrange and manage his/her thoughts at the click of a mouse button.

I need this software in my life . . . desperately.

9. Air Retro Jordans

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Because I’m not as “hip” like all the other cool cats . . .
I’ve never owned a pair of Jordans in my life. I’m 30+ old now and I’m finding myself wanting a pair, particularly the Air Jordan Retro 3, Air Jordan 11, and the Air Jordan 9 “Birmingham Barons” style. I don’t want all three, no. One pair will do just fine, that’s if I can ever find them. My homeboys tell me that I will have to get them online from stores like eBay or Amazon, and I’m like, “No!” How am I supposed to know if they’re authentic? If I’m gonna drop $400-$500 on a pair of shoes I’m buying off someone I’ve never met before I need to be confident that I’m indeed investing in Air Jordans and not Air Gordans or some crap, you get my drift. I really wish I would’ve bought them when they were sold in the Champs and the Foot Lockers and Finish Lines. I don’t know. I may just continue wishing for these.

10. Brahmin

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While every other woman is asking her husband or boyfriend for the new Michael Kors handbag (or whatever hot item women are into these days, I wouldn’t know), I’m asking for a Brahmin. Well, not really, since I already have one as my Christmas present in a limited edition color. I’ve been in love with Brahmin bags since my days in college and I’ve always wanted one. Now, I have one . . . that I’m not permitted to open till Christmas Day. That’s fine! At least I know I got one now!

What are some items you’re currently wishing for? Making a list is fun to do. Do it for the heck of it even if it seems silly, and see how many things you come up with.

Crush Groovin’: Erykah Badu

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She was born under water with three dollars and six dimes. Not sure what that means? Don’t feel so stupid. Hardly anyone understood it then when they first heard the lyric in On and On.

I don’t think I need to introduce this month’s girl crush. I’ll just let you scroll down the page for pictures of this musical goddess:

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Mmmhmmm. Miss Erykah Badu. Or you can simply call her Badu. Better yet, just call her a music goddess because that is what she is. Baduizm, Mama’s Gun, Worldwide Underground, New Amerykah . . . all of her studio albums are solid masterpieces designed to take you into the gifted mind of their creator. Aside from her music and distinct sound, I suppose it’s her eccentricities that land her a spot on my list. Hard to believe why she was able to capture the hearts of men like Andre 3000, Common, The D.O.C., and Jay Electronica, isn’t it? Not really, no. But what is this pull she has on men? Aish, I wish I knew.

Whatever Badu voodoo she’s releasing into the atmosphere, she needs to keep it up so she can continue churning out good music in a world full of studio created “singers.” I am all the way here for it.

*k*

Take an acid trip . . . without the acid.

Jump Up in the Air (and Stay There) featuring Lil’ Wayne and Bilal:

photo credits:
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Erykah Badu Official Myspace Page
Blow the Scene

I Am Not My Hair . . . Am I?

Long hair don’t care . . . until someone assumes it’s not yours.

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This week sometime, I was talking to a male friend of mine who is from and lives in Korea. We had our general conversation: the typical “Hey, how are you? How’s work going?,” and as usual, talk about our cultural differences. Somewhere in between banal and “respect of customs” talk, he gave me a compliment about my curly, wavy hair. It went something like this:

Him: Where did you get that hair? Looks nice!
Me: That’s my hair! All of it! *laughs*
Him: Oh, really?
Me: Yessss. O_O
Him: I don’t know if it’s true or not.
Me: O_O Then I will show you someday.
Him: But I heard black people can’t have long hair.
Me: That’s not true.
Him: And I saw some Beyonce’s pic.
Me: O_-
Him: She doesn’t have hair but fake hair, haha.
Me: *laughs*

Yes, that conversation did happen. I further explained to him that black women were capable of growing their hair to long lengths like women from other ethnicities. I also made sure he understood that caucasian women (or whatever PC name my white sisters prefer to be called) were guilty of wearing extensions just as much as black women were.

Was I offended by his inaccurate assumption about my hair not being real? Not. At. All. I understand that because of the homogeneous society where he is from and where he lives, he hasn’t had much exposure to women who look like me. The only exposure he has is to what he sees on television and in the media (i.e., Beyonce, which leads me to another topic I’m not quite ready to dive into just yet but will eventually ).

Actress, Viola Davis

Actress, Viola Davis


Had it come from someone else, it would’ve sounded like a backhanded compliment. I was able to accept the compliment for what it was and not pop off at him for saying something that otherwise could have been offensive had I’d chosen to be offended. But as we continued to talk about other things, one thing nagged me a bit: why do we–black women–feel the need to add hair to our beautiful tresses?

I haven’t worn any in a while, but people know me for wearing wigs and phony ponytails. Fake hair is fake hair, regardless. I don’t need to wear any, but I like the convenience of changing my hairstyles and color whenever I feel that the outfit I’m wearing requires for me to. And when I’m ready to go back to my own head full of hair, I can on any day. But why do we prefer to wear longer hair past our shoulders down to our waistlines?

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Singer, Janelle Monáe

I desperately wanted to sing praises of the black woman to my Korean friend–to expound on so many things that the Beyonce’s, Gabriel Union’s , Zoe Saldana’s, Lauryn Hill’s, Alicia Keys’, Halle Berry’s, and Tyra Banks’ do not portray. (Seriously, those are all of the women he finds attractive.) I wanted to tell him that as black women, we have the most versatile hair that can do things when we want it to and when we don’t want it to.
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Model/Actress, Yaya DaCosta

(Humidity and rain will NEVER be our hair’s ally.) I couldn’t go into detail about it all, though. After all, night for me is day for him and he was working. I did, however, tell him that “long hair is thought to be better, so blacks add more hair.” (Note: Because of the language barrier between us, we often have to talk in a way for us to understand each other.) After I said it, I cringed a little. I couldn’t help but to ponder the why question. Why is long hair considered to be more beautiful? Furthermore, why do we as women believe such B. S.? Why can’t we love the hair we have without adding to it, be it weaves or chemicals? Has society screwed our mindset that much? My goodness!

I wear my hair in its natural state, meaning no chemicals and definitely no weaves. Of course it’s high-maintenance, believe it or not, but I do love it even if it has a mind of its own and doesn’t always obey what I command it to do.

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Drummer, Cindy Blackman


One other thing: I’m happy to know that other men from other racial backgrounds are taking notice of how beautiful our crowns are.

. . . I just wish we would believe it more for ourselves. And not become so easily offended when people express a curious interest about our unique hair.

*k*

Crush Groovin’: Tracee Ellis Ross

I wish I could get my hair to look this great.

I wish I could get my hair to look this great.

Move over, ladies! Tracee Ellis Ross is joining you as the girl crush of July!

What more could I possibly say that the pictures on this page cannot convey? Yes, she is the daughter of one of the greatest [supreme] divas the world of music has ever been blessed to hear. I have to highlight that fact, but T.E.R. has secured her own spot as one of the most beautiful divas the world of entertainment has been blessed to have.

I honestly don’t know one, single person who does not find this woman attractive. What is it about Tracee Ellis Ross that men and women tend to crush on? Is it her penetrating eyes? Is it her near perfect skin? Is it her curly tresses that so gracefully fall from her crown? Her humorous personality? Or is it that voluptuous rump that gets to follow her everywhere she goes? How about it’s a combination of all of the above? Tracee is sexy for so many reasons that could fill this entire page, but for the sake of keeping it short and sweet, I will say this much: Bu Thiam is one lucky brother to have this arm candy:

Unaltered, natural beauty.

Unaltered, natural beauty.


So, why is T.E.R. considered as one of my girl crushes? Look at the woman. Just look at her!
Then again, this photo says more, yes.

Then again, this photo says more, yes.


TER is too dope. Nuff said.

TER is too dope. Nuff said.

And really, is it necessary for me to explain why she’s even on my list? There’s something about her character that seems ingenuous unlike so many celebrities who are blessed with physical features most women would covet to have. I believe with Miss Tracee Ellis Ross, what you see is what you get. My goodness, she just comes off as one of those people you want to become b.f.f.’s with! (I personally would love to raid her wardobe and jewelry armoire. She even has that tricky, lazy eye thing going on like I do whenever I smile for a flashing camera. That’s reason enough why she and I should be friends! I’m joking . . . sort of.)

Tracee Ellis Ross has a bright spirit that captures people’s attention (clearly, she got it from her mama)–the type of woman who could be seen wearing a pair of Air Jordans one day, Christian Louboutins the next. Now, that’s my kind of girl crush.

She doesn't even need makeup! Flawless, honty! Flaw-less!

She doesn’t even need makeup! Flawless, honty! Flaw-less!

*k*

Crush Groovin’: Esperanza Spalding

ESPERANZA EXTRAVAGANZA!

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simply gorgeous

Massive hair. Soothing voice. Upright bass. My girl crush.
I’d heard of her long ago from a musician friend of mine, but I’d never listened to any of her music. Until one night, back in 2011 during one of my late evenings when I was hungry for new music to listen to, I decided to discover her music on YouTube.esperanza-spaulding-at-oscars Instantly I fell in love and have been in love with her art ever since. The bonus? She is a bass player! (I’ve always had a sore spot for vocalists who were also musicians.)

I had the pleasure in seeing her perform live last month at the University of Alabama at Birmingham. Esperanza-Spalding-2012-Oscar-Hairstyle-19The performance easily goes down as one of the best concerts I’d ever been to in my life. If only that night could have lasted for more than 2 hours!

Esperanza Spalding: Beautiful soul, phenomenal artist.

Yeah, girl. That's what talent sounds like.

Yeah, girl. That’s what talent sounds like.